How to Grow into Union with Your Twin Soul
7 Stages After Separation That Lead You Back to Love
By Lorraine Vesterink | Source image: Corbie Mitleid
When you first go into separation with your twin soul, it can feel like the ground is pulled out from under you. But this separation is not the end—it’s the beginning of a powerful transformation.
Below are the 7 stages that guide you from grief to growth, and eventually to union.
1. Grief
After the first separation, you may feel an immense grief.
The depth of pain surprises you—your soul aches, and your heart may even hurt physically.
You cry for hours, wondering how something so spiritual can bring such sadness. This is part of the awakening.
2. Old Wounds
Just as you’re trying to cope, old wounds resurface.
You didn’t know you carried these within you, but now they ask for healing.
They rise because the journey is asking you to become whole again.
3. Acceptation
This is the moment you begin to accept the separation.
You realize you may no longer be in a relationship—and surprisingly, this acceptance brings calm.
Many discover their true mission here.
You may find out you are a lightworker, which brings clarity and joy.
4. Healing on a Deeper Level
You now begin to release those old wounds and replace them with love.
This phase requires gentle, consistent effort—but you don’t need a coach.
Try the Heal Your Past Method, available at:
👉 twinsoulschool.com
This tool guides you step-by-step, fully self-led, as you reclaim your emotional freedom.
5. Self Love
Now you truly begin to understand self-love—not just as a concept, but as a practice.
You may start creating:
Painting, writing, acting, launching a new project, or pursuing something just for joy.
You’re doing things that light you up from within.
6. I’m Alright Being on My Own
Here, you’ve found balance.
You are happy in your life, and you no longer need your twin flame to complete you.
You feel whole, fulfilled, and grateful—regardless of the outcome.
You’ve moved past the energy of lack. You are enough, as you are.
During this phase, your twin flame might pop in—sending a message, calling briefly, or visiting.
You still feel the connection deeply, but not much changes yet. That’s okay. You’re both still preparing.
7. Manifesting
This is the turning point.
You begin to assume the best.
You release the doubts about your twin flame being avoidant, busy, or unaware—and replace those stories with love.
Use these affirmations to shift your beliefs:
I am in a relationship with my twin soul.
My twin soul loves me and stays with me.
A twin soul relationship is a beautiful relationship.
We are meant for each other.
Because of the twin soul connection I feel a stronger connection to myself.
We are in a harmonious loving relationship.
Leave behind victimhood.
Step out of the audience—and become the director, writer, and star of your life.
You are the creator.
And the future is in your hands.
Final Message
You are not broken. You are perfect, exactly as you are.
And you are loved, whether your twin soul is beside you or not.
Trust the stages.
Trust yourself.
And above all—choose the most loving story you can tell.
With love and light,
Lorraine Vesterink
