By Lorraine Vesterink

Have you ever tried dating tips with your twin soul?

Maybe you waited on purpose before replying to a message…
Or you acted like you had “moved on” – alone or with someone else – just to get a reaction.
But nothing changed. In fact… it only became more painful.
And it felt like you were drifting even further apart.

That makes sense.
Because the love between twin souls is not a game.
It’s not about getting the other person to love you.
It’s about becoming your true self again.

Recently I spoke to a student – ​​let’s call him Tom.
He had tried everything for 9 years: coaches, books, tricks – he even hired a dating coach.
The coach gave him all kinds of strategies, but they were exactly the things that do n’t work with a twin soul.

Here’s a list of common dating tips – and why they don’t work in a twin soul connection:

7 Things That Don’t Work With Your Twin Soul

(Even if they sound smart in regular dating)

Playing hard to get
Your twin soul feels your energy, not your absence. Creating distance only backfires.

Delaying your replies to seem cool or distant
“Let them wait” might sound clever, but it only creates confusion and insecurity.

Hiding your emotions to appear strong or independent
With a twin soul, radical honesty and emotional truth are what actually bring healing.

Flirting with others to make them jealous
Jealousy is not love. It triggers fear and pushes your twin soul further away.

Sending ‘accidental’ messages or using tricks to get attention
This connection doesn’t respond to games. Anything inauthentic is instantly felt.

Following the ’30-day no contact’ rule
Forcing silence in hopes they’ll miss you is based on control – not on trust or surrender.

Looking for happiness in someone else (through new dates, likes, or outside validation)
Your twin soul didn’t come to fill your emptiness – but to help you return home to yourself.

These things might work in “normal” relationships —
but your twin soul feels your truth . Always.

Tom tried all these strategies too…
In the end, he stopped. Hey gave up.
But then he discovered Twin Soul School – and he just started his journey with us now.

✅ 7 Things That DO Work

• Inner peace
• Allowing and feeling your real emotions
• Healing your triggers
• Deepening your self-love
• Setting healthy, loving boundaries
• Letting go of control
• Trusting your soul’s journey

A twin soul connection isn’t activated by strategy – but by energy.

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If you’re reading this:
This is not the end of your love story.
It’s the beginning of your return home – to yourself.

With love,
Lorraine Vesterink

World’s Leading Twin Soul Teacher
Founder of Twin Soul School